When we go through challenging times, like this past extraordinary year, it serves us well to consider what learnings and opportunities adversity has presented us. When we focus constructively, we can turn challenge to triumph.
People’s expectations are so high at this time of the year, and after watching only a couple of holiday specials, it’s not difficult to discover why. How many of them go something like this: A beautiful, well-to-do family sit lovingly together next to the fireplace and perfect tree, with their equally beautiful dog lying next to them as they begin to open up their perfectly wrapped presents while listening to the sounds of Christmas carols being sung outside by passing merry-go-lucky carolers. Hmmm……now, how many of us live up to that scenario? Most of us would probably say our lives don’t resemble anything like the above. For many, it’s by choice, for some, it’s simply reality, and for others, it’s a bit of both. So how do you have a Merry Christmas, or simply a Happy Holiday if your life doesn’t resemble anything like the above? By setting realistic expectations. [...]
Anyone who has ever been coached by me knows what I mean when I say “go to your happy place” because it’s something I find myself saying over and over again. That’s because I believe if you are in your happy space, everything else becomes better. So what exactly do I mean by this? I mean, we should do whatever it takes to make ourselves happy. When we are happy, everything else goes much more smoothly. It’s like when we first fall in love. Everything just seems to be so much better. No matter what happens, we are wearing our rose-coloured glasses and nothing seems to get us down. Well, it’s not the being in love part that is doing this for us, but rather, it’s the happy state which we are in and the feelings that come with that state that allows us to remain in a good mood, [...]